Saturday, July 10, 2010


"the condition of true shyness may simply involve the discomfort of difficulty in knowing what to say in social situations, or may include crippling physical manifestations of uneasiness. shyness usually involves a combination of both symptoms, and may be quite devastating for the sufferer, in many cases leading them to feel that they are boring, or exhibit bizarre behavior in an attempt to create interest, alienating them further. behavioral traits in social situations such as smiling, easily producing suitable conversational topics, assuming a relaxed posture and making good eye contact, which come spontaneously for the average person, may not be second nature for a shy person. such people might only effect such traits by great difficulty, or they may even be impossible to display.
shyness is considered to be a neutral personality trait by people who are not shy, but a very negative trait by those who are shy themselves. in fact, those who are shy are actually perceived more negatively because of the way they act towards others. shy individuals are often distant during conversations, which may cause others to create poor impressions of them, simply adding to their shyness in social situations ... to an unsympathetic observer, a shy individual may be mistaken as cold, distant, arrogant or aloof, which can be frustrating for the shy individual."


bobb said...

A pretty good description of shyness here. I'm very shy in some social situations, and extroverted in others where interaction doesn't focus on nonverbal behavior. I have no fear of public speaking, but being in a social situation, such as a party, makes me nervous.